There is nothing mind blowing about most self help advice. It may be new information. It may come from a different point of view. But it's nothing you don't understand; make list, cross them out. Eat better, invest in yourself, don't let people treat you terribly. Rinse and repeat. You'll read the books. You'll listen to the experts. You'll agree with everything....and you still won't follow the advice. You WANT to. However, want, and will, are two very different things. Want is nothing without execution. Want is nothing without will.
The list of supremely talented, unsuccessful, unhappy people, is endless. We all know them, at some point in our lives, we all are them. For some reason they never seem to be able to figure "it" out. They have all of the tools, all of the opportunity, all of the talent, and can't push through. All of the WANT, none of the determination. None of the Will.
Motivation can be fickle, a wildfire that needs constant care, or it will only illuminate distractions, or worse, burn something important to you. Once it gets a little momentum, it's very easily distracted by something, anything. This, is where it's easiest to forget the big picture; I've put in a little work, I can justify a little play. Though a great theme to enjoying a summer, this is a terrible way to breakthrough to new plateau's, and often I get distracted by the little comforts that aren't inline with my goals. Two steps left, one step right, somehow surprised i'm not moving forward. The want is strong, the Will is weak.
Everything waxes and wanes, and when the Will wanes it's hard to get the motivation to push past it. This, for me, is where pride kicks in. When I can't logic my way into making a good decision, raw emotion and pride is an excellent tool. Questions I've asked my self when angry, hurt, tired, or disappointed. Questions to remind myself of why I wanted in the first place.
"What are you settling for Brandon?" Not this.
"Are you going to be okay if you fail like this? This is really your best?" Nope, i'm going to be angry. Especially because this isn't my best.
"Who are you proving right by quitting? Are they right?" Ugh, Oh hell no.
Three cheers to every girl I wasn't good enough for, teacher who doubted me, and boss who didn't believe in me. You haven't made me what I am, but you've definitely help me define what I'm not.
Without hell or highwater, most things don't change. We have to want it, we have to focused, we have to stay determined. When that doesn't work throw some pride in there, because most of all, we have to be Willing.